Do You Really Want to Be Famous?

I think most of us associate fame with riches as if they're inextricably linked but Joe Frazier died broke and I bet no one reading this can name the CEO of Coca Cola without Google.  (Muhtar Kent, 1.6m in 2015) There are ways to the promised land without putting yourself in the public eye. This is why I have so much respect for my creative people. Singers, actors, comedians, writers, poets, artists (music and illustrative), dancers and people coming up with new ways to entertain us in ways they haven't quite categorized yet. There is nothing braver than standing in front of the world and saying "this is what I can do. Judge me." Being paid for being your authentic self is something most of us place firmly in the "LOL that'll NEVER happen" category but the ones that survive the experience, feel a euphoria that few can relate to.  That success, however, comes with a cost. Sometimes you sell your privacy, your dignity, and the very right to be respected as a human being because you're a public figure.  Some people think they own you and there's hell to pay if you disagree. The type of personal hell Leslie Jones is experiencing right now. Her public shaming has taken a vicious turn that goes well beyond racism, well beyond sexism, and well beyond sanity.  What's happening to her should be reserved for rapists, pedophiles, thieves, murderers, and corrupt politicians.  Her crime?  She got paid to make a movie you didn't like.  

The idea you can tell people how to react to their own experiences is something I'm all too familiar with. (Photo: Dailymail.co.uk)

Side note, the art of knowing when to shut the fuck up has been lost in this country so I cordially invite you, who think you have the right to hide behind a keyboard and be evil to someone you never met, to attend a refresher course, here, at the Wanderer's Voice.  Where discretion isn't just a multi-syllabic word you pull out of your ass to impress your friends, its an effective tool for knowing what you should do when trying to comment on something isn't in your lane.  

Lesson #1
Are you even old enough to remember the original Ghostbusters or its Bobby Brown themed sequel?  No? 

Then by all means...Shut the fuck up.

Lesson #2
If you are old enough to remember the movie and simply don't like what they've done with the reboot are you obligated by law or some other irresistible force to spend your money on the film?  No?

I refer you to the answer above.

Lesson #3
This is the really important one so pay attention.  If you think she deserves what is happening to her, and misogynoir (I learned a word today!) has nothing to do with it, do you feel that any other member of the cast should be subjected to the same treatment?  Have they been subjected to the same treatment?  No?

Then I invite you to re-read the answer to Lesson #1

Reinforcement is so important.


Now, ask yourself why hasn't Ryan Lochte hasn't been subjected to this level of abuse?  He created an international incident and legitimately embarrassed the country.  I've barely seen a meme.  

Ok a few memes.

Why hasn't Roger Ailes, former CEO of Fox News , who sexually harassed women on his staff for decades before his forced resignation, being treated to this level of shaming?  The man is literally a rapist.  Instead, he gets a cushy job with his fellow misogynist, Donald Trump instead of the proverbial burning at the social media (and likely criminal) stake that he deserves.

You don't like her movie? Don't see it. You don't like her style of comedy?  Don't watch it. I'm not a fan of hers for reasons that I'll discuss in another blog post but I'm perfectly ok with not calling her names or hoping to shame her for doing what's none of my (or anyone's) business behind closed doors.  Is this a price worth paying for fame? The idealist in me wants to pick up America and rattle it until the dregs who get off on this type of behavior fall into the Atlantic but I'm also a realist.  Leslie isn't the first and won't be the last because anonymity has brought ugliness and by extension the backlash to fame to an entirely new level.  As much as we'd all like to be rich, is it worth having to practically become public property to get there?  Some of us are a little more sensitive to that trade than others, especially when attacks like this tend to confirm our worst fears.  Sometimes, the price of fame can be too high.  

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